Bullies are very cunning and are expert at getting away with it.
We all know that bullying goes on in every school but it's the way it's dealt with which makes the difference between life being tolerable or a misery.
How to solve the problem
If you are being bullied, tell a friend, tell a teacher and tell your parents. It won't stop unless you do. It can be hard to do this so if you don't feel you can do it in person it might be easier to write a note to your parents explaining how you feel, or perhaps confide in someone outside the immediate family, like a grandparent, aunt, uncle or cousin and ask them to help you tell your parents what's going on.
Britain is a multi-racial and multi-faith country and everyone has the right to have their culture and religion respected by others
Nobody has the right to call you names or to treat you badly because of your colour, race or religion. It's illegal and it can be stopped. You don't have to be a different colour to suffer racist bullying. You might have come from Romania or the former Yugoslavia.
Neither is racist bullying confined to colour of skin. We've had complaints of non-Welsh and non-Scots children experiencing bullying in those countries. Other complaints have been about traveller children finding life difficult in school.
Racist bullying is the only type of bullying that schools must record.
If you're ever tempted to take a weapon into school, to settle a score, or to carry one on the street for protection, then DON'T.
Carrying an offensive weapon is a crime and if you are caught with it, even if you have it in your pocket, you are likely to end up in youth court and expelled from school. An offensive weapon isn't just a knife, it could also be something you use in maths at school, like a compass. Using a weapon on someone else is an assault.
But worse, fighting someone using a knife, perhaps to frighten them, can go tragically wrong. People DIE in fights where knives are used.
If you take someone on in this way, perhaps for revenge, because they've upset you...
If people call you names then they might make nasty remarks saying that you are gay, whether you are or not. Rumours and gossip might be spread about you.
You might be picked on in this way because you're quiet, good looking or because you have good friends of the same sex.
What to do about gay bullyingIf you're being bullied in this way you need to tell your parents and report it to a teacher. Keep a diary of the remarks. If this sort of bullying spills over into violence then it should be reported to the police as a hate crime. Many police forces have specialist units to deal with these incidents.
The people who make these remarks are trying to make you lose your temper
so it's best not to respond to the...
Bullying also goes on in sports clubs in school and out of school.
If you're a young sports player and you're feeling upset at the way you're being treated on the field by your team mates or adults involved in the game then there are things you can do about that.
Not everyone can be on the team so don't be upset if you're not always chosen. That doesn't mean that you're being bullied, just that the coach needs to pick the strongest side.
But if team mates make fun of you on the pitch or in the changing room, or try to upset you to put you off the game so that you don't want to take part in training sessions, that could be bullying if it keeps happening.
Action you can take...
Think about the last time you walked into school. How did you feel? Confident and powerful?
Or timid and worried? And how did you look to other people? Were you striding out purposefully with your head up, looking forward, or were you trying to make yourself look insignificant in the hope that the bullies wouldn't spot you?
How to look more confident
Body language tells us a lot about other people. If you're trying not to be noticed and looking at the ground a lot while darting into school it can make you more noticeable. You look defensive and vulnerable.
If you step out boldly you send out a quite different message of confidence, as though you're the sort of person who might answer...
Around 16 pupils in the UK kill themselves every year due to distress over bullying.
Their schools often say they had no idea what was going on. But the bullies know exactly what they've been doing - and so do their friends. It's too late to have regrets when someone has died, or been made so ill they need medical treatment.
Bullying can make people feel really upset and depressed
Here is what some pupils told us in just one week:
"She has taken all my friends away and I go home at night and I'm depressed and cry" - girl aged 13
"One time I wouldn't eat because of people calling me 'fat'" - boy aged 14
"Mondays were worst because I had to face the bully again and I soon got...
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Most of the information you need is probably already on the website, if you can't find it then let us know and we'll explain where it is.
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You can feel very lonely if the bullies have taken your friends away
Often friends are afraid they'll also be bullied if they go around with you. It's always very upsetting when friends turn against you which is a good reason to try to make as many friends as you can, even those in different years.
If the bully has taken your friends away you could have a word with each of your friends individually, at a time when nobody else is around, and just sound them out. You could try to get them talking about something they did at the weekend and then just say that you used to be friends with them and you're not sure why that changed. Tell them that you'd really like their support.
If you see someone being bullied and you don't do anything to help them then you're helping the bully!
People who are being bullied can feel their lives are such a misery that they want to die. Often other people at school don't realise the effect that bullying has when it goes on day in day out.
Bullying makes people so upset that they often need to see a doctor. They might even try to kill themselves, or they self harm or perhaps suffer an eating disorder, particularly if they are called names about their weight or appearance.
There are usually quite a lot of pointers that someone is being bullied and if you see or hear any of them you're in a good position to help.
How to tell if...
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